I've been on a veggie kick for the last two weeks, no desire for meat, which isn't out of character, seeings as how I didn't eat meat that much to begin with. I might even go vegan after a little while. But I'm definitly cutting out dairy. Yuuuuck.
I have seven job applications to drop off. Most of the people I picked them up from sounded like they really needed people. So callbacks are inevitable.
Before you read this, I have to let everyone know that this part of the blog isn't about any one person in particular, it's just about everyone. Not about anyone, but about everyone. Yeah, I know...
It seems I've obtained a reputation for being a "slut", "whore", "promiscuous", etc. of course, I'm well aware of this and it wouldn't piss me off as much if these people would realize I haven't been a slut/whore/promiscuous for about 3 years.
Many people go through a promiscuous stage, I'm no different. It seems the only difference is I've never thought of it as shameful or dirty. I absolutely hate the word 'slut' because that's exactly what is suggests. I also think calling a woman a slut is sexism at it's worst. I'm for the ladies, I'm a ladyist, and in my opinion, nothing hurts as much as a double standard. Obviously, the double standard in question here is heterosexual men calling a women sluts.
The other day I was talking to a straight friend of mine about where he should take his date out, seeing as he had little money. Jokingly, I said, "The parking-lot." Instead of aknowledging it as a joke he said, "I wouldn't date a girl like that." This peaked my interest, because I knew what he ment. Naturally, I played koy and asked what he ment. "Because that's slutty." Rather than trying to make him see it the way I see it, which I have a tendancy to do, I kept my thoughts to myself.
What's funny is men, especially amoung other men, are supposed to want sex all the time. We don't. Women, especially amoung other women, it seems they aren't supposed to like sex at all. They do. This would be hilarious if it weren't so tragic.
Who here thinks their sex-life is none's buisness, but their own? Right, everybody. But when it comes to someone else's sex-life, all ears are turned in their direction, then the judgement comes and everyone pins them as The Slut. It disgusts me. It's hypocritical.
Anyways, I'm all over the place with this. I'm digressing from what was originally being said. What confuses me is how someone, who doesn't even know a person, can label them as, basically, 'tainted' when they don't know their personal day-to-day life.
Ok, so, yeah. For a good while, I was promiscuous. 'Was' being the operative word. I'm not ashamed, and I certainly don't see it as dirty. This stuff follows me everywhere, with everyone I knew/know. It was my decision, and mine alone, so these people have absolutely no place to say, "If I were you, I would have done it differently." Well, you weren't, and I was living my life the best way I knew how. Promiscuousness is just a distraction from other problems going on in that person's life, people need to recognize that rather than damning them for having intercourse.
That's not me anymore, it hasn't been for a long time, and it never will be again. So, in conclusion, I turn your snide comments back onto you. You need to own the fact that, A: It's shallow to see someone for what they do, rather than why they're doing it, B: You're propelling the same social patriarchal mores that has kept everyone ashamed and dirty for hundreds of years, C: It's utterly hypocritical to pass judgement on someone's sexuality, and ultimately, you're not only hurting that person, you're hurting yourself.
I will never condone one-night-stands. Not because it's a 'dirty' thing, but because it's dangerous. It's physically dangerous and psychologically dangerous. Sex isn't the problem, it's the fact that not only does the "slut label" follow someone around for a very long time, but it breaks them down. For what? To maintain your ignorrance and keep a closed mind to what may actually ease your concience.
As I post this, I know it will set my "slut" label in stone, because that's just the way people are. "He doesn't think sex is dirty? BURN THE WITCH!" I accept that, but hopefully people will realize refering to someone as a 'slut' makes them the only 'whore'.